Wednesday, December 27, 2006

How did we decide to adopt?

Well, I realize that we gave you the Kimmie and Quan story without giving you the background of what led us to adopt in the first place! Back in early September 2006, I began to have these crazy feelings that maybe it would be okay if we had more children. I've gone through these phases before but usually they only last about...oh...say...5 minutes. This time I couldn't get rid of this baby craziness. It was like someone had taken over my body and I just couldn't get enough of babies and toddlers. Ever since Carlie has been born, I have felt very content and happy to have NO MORE CHILDREN. Matter of fact, I'm sure many of you have heard me say "We're done, no more".

Well, God had other plans... I read James chapter 1 in a morning quiet time with the Lord. Verse 27 seemed to come alive off the page...it reads "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world." The word orphans kept coming to my mind, and looking back I know now that it was the Holy Spirit prompting me. I wondered what in the world God wanted me to do about orphans. Orphans? Well, okay I'll pray for the orphans. A week or so later we had some friends (the Sumpters) over for dinner. We both admire Tina and Chris's walk with the Lord and wanted to get to know them better. They walk in our house with this beautiful 17 mos. old girl from China. There was that word again in my head...orphans, orphans, it was like God was saying "This is what I was talking about..." The entire night I am totally falling in love with this little girl...watching Katie Lyn play with her so sweetly and thinking how much fun it would be to have another toddler in the house. I say nothing to Rob about any of these feelings, even the ones that I want to have more children. After the Sumpters left Rob nonchalantly asked me, "So, do you want to go adopt us a baby from China?" To his surprise I said "You know, I'm not going to say no!"

That started us talking about it more, and turns out Rob had been thinking about adopting from China for several months, but didn't tell me because he knew I would say no. We prayed and talked and talked and prayed and on Sept. 18 we fasted for the day to pray about God's direction. That day, Rob will say, is the most spirit filled day of his life. We received so many confirmations over and over that we are supposed to adopt! One verse God gave me that day was Psalm 9:18 "But the needy will not always be forgotten, nor the hope of the afflicted ever perish." The next day I was looking back at my journal and realized that verse...Ps. 9:18 was given to me on 9/18!!!!! On Sept. 21st we turned in our adoption application to Lifeline agency here in B'ham.

We both agreed we wanted to adopt two. We weren't sure what the China regulations were about that, since we already have 4. Turns out 4 is the max. no. of children you can have already in your home. Your adopted child can be no more than the 5th child. However, China does sometimes make exceptions if you adopt special needs. But tonight I was looking back in my journal and it is so neat to see that from the beginning we prayed for two. And from the beginning we prayed about adopting special needs, as well. God is leading us on quite a path, and we have enjoyed getting to know Him more each step of the way.

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